Leaving the Military: Find Civilian Services for Your Child With a Disability

When your service member separates or retires from the military, where do you go to find civilian services for your child with a disability?  Certain military benefits will end and civilian supports and services will need to be put in place. This resource can help you understand which services your child might keep, and what civilian options you can explore.

If you are PCSing to a “forever” home location, this article includes resource finders available across the United States and Territories.

As you read down the columns, you will see references to Parent Centers. Parent Centers are funded by Office of Special Education (OSEP), US Department of Education to support parents of children age birth to 26 who have disabilities.

 In addition to the extensive resources at your state’s Parent Center(s), you can also use resources at the Center for Parent Information and Resources (CPIR), a national center serving Parent Centers and families with online information. According to the CPIR:

“There are nearly 100 Parent Training and Information Centers PTIs) and Community Parent Resource Centers (CPRCs) in the US and Territories. These Centers perform a variety of direct services for children and youth with disabilities, families, professionals, and other organizations that support them. Some of the activities include:

  • Working with families of infants, toddlers, children, and youth with disabilities, birth to 26
  • Helping parents participate effectively in their children’s education and development
  • Partnering with professionals and policy makers to improve outcomes for all children with disabilities” – https://www.parentcenterhub.org/the-parent-center-network/

Quick-find links:

Medicaid

Medicaid Home and Community Based Services (HCBS) Waiver
*Because of military family mobility, including when retiring from the military, retaining a place on a HCBS Waiver wait list may be challenging. Some states have made legislative changes to help military families retain earned priority to receive HCBS Waivers (Military State Policy Source status tracker from Military OneSource).  Learn about the military waiver benefit at Military OneSource.

Autism resources by State (Easter Seals)

State Agencies on Developmental or Intellectual Disabilities

Parent Centers

 Early Intervention programs for each State:  ages birth to three, Individual Family Service Plan (IFSP)

Family to Family Health Information Centers  –these may be programs in a state’s parent center(s)

Parent2Parent:  direct, one-on-one trained support from other parents in your family’s situation, and support groups. Sometimes located in parent centers.

Children’s Benefits:
Active Duty
or Active Reserve
Keep Benefit?
(retiring after 20 yrs service)
Equivalent Civilian Resources
TRICARE medical coverage (may include case management, mental health, hospice careYes, but there may be extra costsPrivate insurance (useful article at the Military Wallet website
Medicaid
TRICARE for children after age 21, up to age 26 (including college students)YesPrivate insurance (useful article at the Military Wallet website
Medicaid
TRICARE after age 26 through secondary dependencyYesMedicaid
Supplemental Security Income(SSI) -in some states, receiving SSI helps determine Medicaid eligibility
ABA services through Tricare’s Autism Demo ProjectYes, but only if the service member retires, as opposed to leaving the military prior to fulfilling the terms of service for retirement. If the service member leaves without retiring, try the resources in the right-hand column.Medicaid
Medicaid Home and Community Based Services (HCBS) Waiver
Autism resource by state (Easter Seals)
State agencies on Developmental or Intellectual Disabilities
Extended Care Health Option (ECHO) provides supplemental support services not available through Tricare’s regular coverage. Some benefits similar to Medicaid HCBS waiversNoMedicaid Home and Community Based Services (HCBS) Waiver
Respite care through ECHO and other programs


No, but check with the community family center at a local installation to identify any military-family support organizations which may offer funding or locator services.
Medicaid Home and Community Based Services (HCBS) Waiver

Easter Seals

Respite locator:
https://archrespite.org/respitelocator
Exceptional Family Member Program (EFMP) Family Support (help with navigating military and some civilian systemsYes, at the discretion of each installation’s EFMP Family Support officeParent Centers
Military child care benefitsNoPrivate: not subsidized but can use the directory: ChildCareAware.org

If a family has income restrictions, many states have subsidized care through Dept. of Health and Human services, or equivalent
School Liaison office for help navigating school systems and services. Helps families use MIC3 (Interstate Compact)Parent Centers
Interstate Compact on Educational Opportunities for Military Children (MIC3)Children are covered by the provisions of the Compact for one year after service member retires.
Parent Centers
Free Tutoring from Tutor.comNoCommercial tutoring or through school
Table comparing military benefits for children with disabilities prior to and after a service member’s retirement or separation, with equivalent civilian resources

Helping Military Families Receive Early Intervention Services

Although all parents of children with disabilities need accurate and timely information, parents of children age birth to three have a narrow time frame to get interventions. With so many differences in lead agencies, family copays, and eligibility for EIS state to state, highly mobile military families have a crucial need for information in advance of a move.

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Branch Resources with Handouts

Handouts can be branded with your Parent Center’s logo, contact information, edited for state specifics, etc.  Download the handouts directly from each article in the website.

Relocation for Military Families-PCS

Extended Care Health Option (ECHO)

Medicaid: Referring Families to Supports and Services

Help for Grandparents and Other Temporary Caregivers

Post-High School Transition Resource for Military Families

Scholarships Financial Resources for Military and Non Military Youth with Disabilities

16 Financial Resources for Military Families

Help Military Families Prepare Their Child’s School for Deployment

Resolve School Issues with the Interstate Compact

3 Training Resources for Parent Centers: for staff and families

The Military Families Learning Network (MFLN)is a project of the Department of Defense (DoD) and the US Department of Agriculture through the Cooperative Extension Service.

For Parent Centers: These items were selected for their usefulness for your staff development and your coworkers and as parent resources.

  1. Keys to Establishing Trust: Seven Attributes & Three Exercises for Providers

A thought-provoking set of training exercises on establishing trust with military families or indeed any family or individual.

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Key Topics on the minds of military families

Feature your parent center’s information, training and resources on these topics to reach and assist military families:

  • State-specific Information
  • Moving and your child’s IEP
  • Community resources at your new duty station

Highlighting these three key areas using language familiar to military-connected families (“PCSing”) demonstrates your parent center’s knowledge of the issues they face.

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Exceptional Family Member Program (EFMP)

The Exceptional Family Member Program (EFMP) is a mandatory* Department of Defense program that helps military dependents with special needs. The Coast Guard, which operates under the authority of the Department of Homeland Security has a similar program called the Special Needs Program, or SNP.

* EFMP is mandatory, primarily so a family member’s needs may be considered during the duty assignment process. However, some families do not enroll because they believe the program requirements are not worth the benefits to them, or they perceive the program as limiting the service member’s duty assignment options, and thus his or her career.

EFMP Family Support staff, along with an installation’s School Liaison, are the primary points of contact for parent centers for holding installation-based trainings, access to meet with families on installations, and insider information about installation support programs and family engagement.

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